I've really taken to the concept that we truly are the creators of our own destiny. With that realization comes a whole lot of responsibility, not only in the decisions that we ultimately make, but also in the thoughts that go through our head all day, every day. I've come to understand it as a kind of, "If you build it, they will come" way of creating our thoughts. What I choose to think about, either positive or negative, is what I'm attracting into my life, so it's my responsibility to decide my thoughts. For 2013 I'm dreaming big and wonderful without any of those negative thoughts to tell me it can't be done! What kind of changes in your thinking can ultimately help you to create a better 2013...a path for you to achieve true happiness and contentment?
If you're going to decide to be happier in 2013, then you might just have to make some tough choices. It's very common to play the victim and continuously stay in situations because we 'don't have a choice', but the truth is that there is always another choice. Most often, however, we just choose to not give ourselves another option because 'it's not the responsible thing to do' or 'I have bills to pay and a family to feed'. Those statements, true as they may be, are not forcing you to do anything specific in your life. They don't keep you from your ability to listen to your Spirit and dream a brighter and happier future for yourself and your family. The only thing that makes us trapped is our discouraging thoughts about what our souls really want, the dreams we don't let ourselves dream.
If a friendship, for example, makes you miserable and you feel bad every time you are with that person, is it the other person's fault for not being a good friend, or is it your fault for continuing to allow that person to be a bad friend? We choose to stay in the friendship, when maybe it is one that should be ended, not because they are evil, but because it's stopped being a symbiotic relationship (where two people are benefiting). You've heard the saying, "People come and go from our lives..." but sometimes it's hard to actually Let them go. If you're feeling in your gut that you no longer want to spend time with a friend, then let that be acceptable to you and discontinue the friendship. We have no obligation to people, no responsibility to be a life long friend, those expectations are all in our heads and they do not serve us in the long run. Most of the time, if we make the life changes that we really want to make and take care of ourselves (being true to our spirits by always doing what we want, when we want), those parasitic relationships have a way of ending all by themselves. And by the way, doing what you want, when you want is not selfish...it's living your truth! If the people around you are always doing what you want and NOT what they want, then it is their fault for not living Their truth! They hold that responsibility for their lives...
That's only one example! We can make these analysis' on our careers, how much money we expect to earn, the things we own, or owe money for, where we live, our romantic relationships, our extra curricular activities, how we eat, how we expect ourselves to look, and on and on. Back when I was at my lowest point, I think that I was in a bad situation with every single one of those things I mentioned, and I felt absolutely trapped. I gave myself permission to make the decision that would allow me to be Happy, not necessarily the 'socially acceptable' decision. The one where I felt peace. The amazing wonderful thing is that since I've made the tough choices (and continue to do so), and chose daily to live my hearts truth, I've had great responses from the people in my life. It seems that people understand, and often wish they were doing the same thing themselves. The people that don't agree will go willingly and peacefully and move onto the next. First step to changing your life is realizing that You alone are 100% responsible for where you are in your life. The great news following that realization is that you have the power to change your situation whenever you want! So say yes to yourself, make those tough changes and be happy, my friends!
All the best friends!!
Jess
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